Perspectives on Pain

Processing Pain and Discomfort:   This is an undertone that I have noted to be gaining in global prominence of late. I have always seen pain as a very dramatic awareness. A gift of vividity that we must stop and take note of. We must categorize it , however it is that we decide to do this , as it is the loudest of flows. It is like we gift ourselves with an opportunity to see something. Or maybe this could better be described as we are hitting ourselves over the head with the fact that we don't feel alright in some glaring way. Acute notice is required, thank you very much. And along with this acute notice comes an acute decision to make!

What do we do with this pain we feel? We may not have a solid idea formulated, so we might look to some easy examples and apply this to our own mental, emotional or physical pain . For example, we would not leave our son or daughters' hurts unbandaged, telling them it's just a part of growing , or tell them it's a great thing. When our kids get hurt, our heart immediately moves us to take action for them , to take all the steps we can think of to make them feel better - right down to the emotional and mental stress we work on for them by kissing their hurts and hugging them tightly. Basically we are surrounding them with our hearts, our love. We are teaching our children , perhaps first and foremost, that love comes out when pains come up. But are we also sending a double message? Are we also telling them (as our parents taught us) that someone else's love comes out when pain comes up? Perhaps we have done so and this is belief code that constantly conflicts with self love and true pain release.

Why , if we naturally are moved to make things better for our children, would we not immediately surround ourselves with love in the same way when we feel pained?   Yet I often note that we do have a dichotomy of action - nonaction related to pain for ourselves versus others. We may make excuses for our pain, we ignore our pain, we take pills to force it into subconscious realms, or we accept our pain and bear it and bear it and bear it - not applying our heart and soul and guts to the action of alleviating our pain. Our hearts can do anything. Everything. If we believe this truly then why would we allow pain to come and not take some sort of action? We wouldn't, of course, so to stand by and not nurture ourselves when we are pained is a sure clue of living under illusions that are stifling. We would not ever give ourselves pain if this was not in some way related to action on our part ! This is quite logical. Not only this, but pain is not meek and mild so as to be possibly overlooked.  No. Pain is acutely conscious . It places itself front and center into our conscious life, so is not serving some sidekick or side-effect role. I have noticed personally and through my work that every pain awareness is the beginning , only the very beginning, of a process. A self-love process. A process where we discover how to nurture ourselves .

For me, pain hurts and yet I also see it as just one part of a very positive process . It is the beginning cue of such a process, were I to actually engage and not turn away from this cue. Processing my pain is true self love in action. Pain comes in many formats, from mental anguish to spiritual holes to emotional trauma to actual physical discomforts. Pain can exist in all our layers , changing its format to better emote through whatever medium it is working through.  No matter which format of pain we may be feeling, taking action to truly own up to the pain (aka validate it) will start us on a natural course to begin trying to alleviate the pain to the best of our ability at the moment. And it may spur us to find new abilities - in fact that is highly likely. This is nothing less than a fiercely powerful self love that will carry us to incredible insights we might not have known otherwise. I may not always personally alleviate the pain right away but in the process I always get some great insights into my life.

Getting to the Bottom Of Our Pain

I am not an expert on this by any means , though I have had quite some good success. For me it begins with sheer acknowledgement and owning up to the pain as being mine. Do you realize that this is rarely done by us? We may even "say" we do and take action like we do , but our hearts know our true intent to make it the "fault" of others. We can be very stubborn about owning up to our locks, truly. Society, pollution, greed of others, family vendettas, etc etc ...the list goes on and on with who we really in our hearts feel is responsible besides us. If I can take responsibility and own up to my own locked flow , it's like a barrier drops and I then gain the detachment I need to go further. Into step two. Without that acknowledgement I can take all the steps I want, but it will be inefficient and maybe not as effective as I 'd like it to be. If I were not an energyworker, it could well leave me thinking that alternative healers (or all doctors, in fact ) are nothing but quacks. But in my heart of hearts, I'd have been counting on them to heal me. Under that circumstance my sovereignty will guarantee that no one else will heal me if I am not willing to do so to some degree first. Sure, it may be that someone can push the lock into another quadrant or layer of our being , but we will only be getting rid of one problem and replacing it succinctly with another . And in my experience with this, when we do this, we are going to also accrue compound interest on that new problem, since we have chosen to take things to an even deeper level of self denial.

Assuming I am owning up to my pain, I may at that point also call in others to aid me in this. They would act as facilitators WITH me, to speed the process along , not as healers FOR me. All the many years of my facilitation work back me up on saying that this is an utterly crucial distinction within our minds! We ourselves must take at least some responsibility for our pain and we ourselves must be willing to work on it actively in true self love. This is far different than taking ourselves to one doctor or healer after another and hoping they will be able to just make it all go away - this kind of action is not based in self love, but rather in frantic denial of our pain, so it will not work in the long run as we are looking to others as the healer, not as a facilitator. The simple and inescapable truth is that WE are the healers for ourselves and we can ask all the facilitators we want to aid us in this process. It doesn't happen the other way around however - we do not merely aid the facilitators , we must enable them first and foremost . This happens in our hearts before we ever even think about any specifics.

The other end of the "denial of pain" pendulum is when we bear pain stoicly or think to somehow get around it by ignoring it as important in and of itself. This is also not self love. Unless we see pain as being more than just a burden to be borne or something to be forced into submission somehow, we won't tend to look and we won't tend to wrap our hearts around it and "make it better" for ourselves in the same way we do this for our children or for others. From what I have noted, the real focus of pain is Self-Love . The more in pain we are in (mental, emotional or physical ) the more self-love we are telling ourselves we are in need of.

How do you flow with pain and with being responsible for your pain ? How responsible we are is, I find, really pivotal to how we will view pain, to the ways we decide to work (or not to work!) with pain, to how well our work with others actually accomplishes openings for us, and also what pain means or doesn't mean to our everyday lives and our journey here. It is pivotal to the degree of self-love we actually have versus what we think we have. Some questions to ask ourselves are : Do you think pain is alright? Do your thoughts and your feelings about pain match up? Do you feel pain is inevitable? Do you feel pain is productive in a straightforward way or in a curvilinear way or not in any way at all ? I simply share these as a springboard for your own thoughts.

Follow Up

Are you in seemingly endless pain of one type or another and ready to stop hurting? Want to know the honest flows on how responsible you are for your pain? Consider a half hour consult and we will walk through some basic flows to give you an idea of what your basic platform has been. This is not energywork per se, as I will only be telling you where I see you currently, not moving energy for you. This is something everyone can consider. Can we focus better if we know where to focus? Absolutely and that is why if you do not know where you stand with pain responsibility, or you have a longstanding issue that is not being resolved adequately, you could find this to be one of the most illuminating 1/2 hours all year. Please, do not be afraid ! That is another illusion that will stifle you! I hold endless hope that we can shift absolutely anything we wish to - I have begun from scratch on that myself in many ways and have seen the miracles that happen when we turn around to face our locks and work on them in truth.

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